TWE No. 25 // Happiness is a journey and not a destination
'Happiness is a journey and not a destination' - there is so much truth in this. No one is happy all the time and let's face it, quite often being happy also takes some effort and time. I am happy when I get up in the morning and the sun is shining or when I go to bed after I had a wonderful day. I also think that it often are the little things in life that bring you lots of joy and happiness and when you are able to enjoy and appreciate the little things in life, you are a much happier person in general. So ask yourself what brings you happiness and try to include everything that makes you happy in your daily life.
I am happy whenever I can create something or do something creative; designing, writing, cooking, baking, crafting...so basically everything where I create something and have a visual result in the end makes me happy. Does it work for you as well?
I realised that happiness is a journey because like I told you before, the majority of my life I was quite the opposite of happy - I was depressed but things got much better once I found joy in the little things again and focused on setting new goals. That certainly helped a lot. So now I can say that most of the days I am pretty happy but of course I also go through bad days - but that is okay and it is normal.
But I think it is important to be aware of the fact that happiness is not a goal you just just aim for and instead see it as what it really is, a journey. Of course having goals that make you happy is a major thing but the journey itself to get there is what is causing happiness. Figuring your own happiness out along the way, getting to know yourself better and seeing what actually brings you happiness and what does not. I am much happier ever since I got back into design because design is something that had always been on my mind and I felt like I neglected something my heart is aching for while not being in design. I still clearly remember in high school how interested I was in graphic design and photography, interior design and architecture, how much I was fascinated by the art rooms in high school with all the art and crafting supplies, but how my inner critic and my lack of self-esteem and believing in myself held me back from getting into those fields I just mentioned above. Instead I took the safe route of doing an apprenticeship with languages and business administration. And also while doing that, I was always longing for doing something creative. So whenever I started studying at university I somehow ended up studying media design which finally led me into the right direction. But at that time I was also not really feeling happy. I think my journey to happiness truly started when I moved to Spain and there decided to become a freelancer in the near future. But at that time whenever I already made that decision, I still did not dare to get back into design. Instead I wanted to attend a photojournalism program and then head into that direction - probably because I high school I was also toying around with becoming a journalist and while studying media design I was always very interested in documentary filmmaking and documentary photography - but in the end I let go of everything journalism related because I realised that this is also not for me. So my journey to happiness finally brought me back to design! After all those years, how crazy is that?!
Truth is happiness is something that comes from within you. Of course circumstances influence how happy or sad you feel but really being happy requires you to work on your inner self and then to work on the circumstances that help you to become the happiest version of yourself that you can be. When you struggle with feeling happiness it is probably best to take a look at your emotions, feelings and the way you see yourself. When you are constantly hard on yourself, it is no wonder that being happy is hard to achieve most of the time. So you have to learn to see yourself with kindness and to treat yourself with love and to work on a major mindset shift. I can tell you from my own experience that it works. Once I stopped being so hard on myself all the time and started treating myself with love, respect and kindness something within me happened and I immediately noticed how much happier I became day by day. Of course I still struggle with many areas in life that I find incredibly challenging and also unfair, but here I actively try to shift my mind into a new perspective that is not seeing everything powerless and with despair, instead I try to see where I can change my mind into a new perspective that actually supports my goals and how to make things work. You can imagine now much easier going everything seems then only through shifting your perspective and that of course also has a major influence on your happiness overall. So all I can say is that this whole happiness thing that each one of us wants is a journey and not a destination. Think about it and then think about a strategy how to make this journey a great one bringing you tons of happiness that you deserve.