TWE NO.31 // I am enough
"I am enough" is a gentle reminder to all of us in this world struggling with the fear of just not being good enough or being enough in general. I know that there are a million wonderful, smart and gorgeous women out there who struggle with the feeling of just not being enough - despite having reached so much in life, many of us feel like it is never enough.
Therefore I created this graphic to remind you that you are enough the way you are! It is a horrible feeling to always feel like there is something missing that finally makes you 'a good person'. Let's face the truth, these thoughts and feelings are utter bullshit. If you are a loving and kind human being, then you are enough. If you have a good heart and a warm soul, you are enough.
I know that our Western society puts a big pressure on us women. We feel like we have to be a million things in order to finally be enough. Things that aren't achievable anyways or certain things that others expect from us...and if we don't follow along we feel unworthy and insufficient.
But where does it stem from that we feel like we are never enough? Truth is, I don't know, I can only do the guess work here. Maybe we did not live up to our parents expectations and our teachers (friends, boyfriends - insert whatever fits for you) expectations and therefore we feel like whatever we do is not enough. On the other hand there is that kind of pressure that society puts on us. If you are in your mid thirties and without a husband and children, it is expected that you enter the career path in the corporate world - then everyone is like, ah here is wonder woman, she made her choice, career it is and family it is not. Or let's look at the kind of women trying to pull off the big career while having a family. Here society is even more impressed. Another example is the stay-at-home mom completely supporting her husband climbing the career ladder and first of all making it possible for him since she is taking care of everything so he can focus on his corporate life - another scenario that our society absolutely loves and approves of.
But now let's face it. If you are none of these women I just described, you do your own thing, you go your way giving a damn about what society, family and friends expect from you...guess what, YOU ARE ENOUGH! Be proud of yourself for making your own choices, for taking responsibility for your own life and happiness. You are a true SHERO (female version of hero).
Self-doubt is a big problem and I am quite certain that self-doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will! I used to doubt myself and thinking 'I am not enough, I am unworthy' pretty much all my life until I decided to say, that's it - I am through with this. It only takes away my energy, makes me sad and depressed and prevents me from achieving my dreams. So now I tell myself every day that I am enough and that I can achieve pretty much whatever I want. And that is important because it is so energizing and as soon as your feelings about yourself don't block you anymore you are free! Finally you can get creative and start working on all the great things you always wanted to do. Of course it is work to get there, the inner work that you have to do and go through, but believe me - it is absolutely worth it.
Of course there are days when you still struggle but that's normal and the good thing is, usually it only lasts for a few days and then your inner wonder woman comes back and confirms you that you are enough, that what you do is enough and that all the effort you put into improving yourself, working on yourself, improving your life is absolutely worth it.
So if you ever feel that you are not enough, I hope that I could convince you that you are. Save that graphic on your phone and set it as your background that you constantly get reminded of being enough. Subtle messages really trick your brain and help you to believe that it is the truth. Which it is of course but it is your inner self holding you back and constantly sabotaging you. Self-sabotage of old ways that worked in the past but since you realise what is going on in the background of your brain, you can work against it and change the direction through subtle messages that actually support your cause and result in a positive belief system about yourself. And that is where we want to be. We want to be happy and feel good about ourselves instead of self-sabotaging us and causing ourselves misery through self-destructive behaviour that we learned and accepted in the past. No baby, those days are over and now the happy days follow. Each day, every day...so please repeat it! I AM ENOUGH!