The Romance Files // Introducing a new blog series exploring love and relationships
So let's start a new blog category here, exploring and talking about something that matters for each one of us...the thing that has already been a huge source of inspiration for so many musicians, filmmaker, artists, writers, let's talk about love and relationships. In most cases love is a real battlefield in my opinion. Everyone who has ever been heartbroken can probably relate to how awful the pain is and the experience of feeling this will never end. Fortunately though the pain comes to an end at a certain point...but it takes a while. But then comes the other issue of trusting someone again or even another thing that seems impossible, meeting somebody you like and feel attracted to. Well, it does not happen very often to me I gotta say...
I remember when I was in high school watching 'Sex and the City' every Tuesday night dreaming about writing a column myself one day like Carrie Bradshaw does in the series. I had always been fascinated by love and relationships, dating, meeting guys and to research and write about it like she does in SATC. Of course at that time (it was around 2000 - 2002) I had no idea that one day I will be writing a blog, so here this dream from back in the high school days finally becomes reality. The other dream was to become an independent graphic designer, so how wonderful is that?! Now, so many years later I get to combine everything that I was dreaming of before graduating from high school, being an independent graphic designer and writing about topics that matter to me. Love and relationships certainly is one of them.
I have been seeing lots of issues and problems in relationships among my friends lately and I remember experiencing lots of relationship drama last year as well. These days I see relationships falling apart where I never ever expected this to happen. Couples that had been together for so many years and everything always seemed to work out so well. Or also couples who are not compatible at all, who in consequence create lots of drama and misery for themselves staying in relationships with partners who are just not the right fit. What is going on in our society that people tend to stay single forever and don't commit at all or on the other hand they commit to partners who are not good for them? Is it a way of self-sabotage to commit to the wrong person again and again? For sure! And also fears comes in, fear to commit in general or maybe even fear of committing to someone who actually makes you happy because then you just don't know how to handle this new situation when leaving your uncomfortable 'comfort zone'.
I am brutally honest here, I struggle a lot when it comes to love, relationships, commitment and being emotionally available to a loving partner. I have real issues here as well, I improved enormously compared to where I was a few years ago but there still is tons of room for more improvement - so I am sharing my journey with you here, I am sure many of you can totally relate and that you experience similar things or did in the past.
It seems you older you get, the more difficult it gets to meet a partner who is not completely screwed up by his past relationship experiences. Of course that statement also applies to you. The older we get, the more complicated we are due to our past experiences with love and relationships.
Anyways, I want to start this new blog series further exploring why everything always seems to be so complicated when it comes to love and relationships because I honestly think it does not have to be this way if we do the inner work and reflection and treat the ones close to us the way we want to be treated as well.
Which aspects of love and relationships are you interested in? Please let me know and then I will think about it and share my thoughts with you here.