The Wellness Edition No.55 // you can't pour from an empty cup

In order to function well and to be able to help and serve others, you have to take good care of yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Whenever you are overworked, burnt out, utterly exhausted, not well nourished, without enough sleep and so on, then daily life and gets tough. So therefore it is super important to take good care of yourself before you start taking care of others. I know what I am talking about, I used to burn myself out quite a lot, not nourish my body with enough calories and sleep, sacrificing my mental and physical health for shitty jobs, for toxic relationships and toxic friendships and so on. Believe me my dear, it is not worth it.

I decided to write on this blog mainly about mental health, emotional and physical wellbeing, shifting your mindset, turning your relationship with yourself from hate to love, goal setting and self-development, love and relationships because all of those topics were or are things that I used to struggle with a lot and how I finally learned to deal with it better and to struggle less. Since I had made it to get out of a deep dark hole of depression, eating disorders, anxiety and self-hate I want to encourage you to be able to do the same thing. Because I think if it was possible for me, it is also possible for you, as long as you are willing to reflect on your behaviour and habits, to figure out what works well and what doesn’t and then to take all the important steps to improve your life and to head into a direction that makes you happy, that makes you excited to get up in the morning and to start your new day and to become so much happier than you were before. It takes time, it takes effort, it takes hard work - but it’s all worth it.

Self-care is important, it is not selfish, it is what you have to do in order to stay emotionally and physically healthy and strong. Because you can’t pour from an empty cup. Take good care of yourself, say no to what does not feel right, walk out of toxic relationships and situations and start loving the person you are and to treat this person with the utmost love, care and respect. I guess with people who are emotionally healthy and have always been that way, you don’t even have to talk about these things, because they are granted. But there is also people like me and maybe you who have not always been emotionally healthy and therefore had to learn their lessons the hard way. But I feel as long as we could learn from it, share our own experiences with other people and support and help them through that, then it is all worth it already.

So I hope you do something good for yourself today, and even if it just means to completely zoom out and spend the day by yourself at home or with a friend. Listen to your gut and give your soul what it needs, recharge your batteries, spend time with loved ones, enjoy all the delicious food you enjoy, get some sleep an sunshine, appreciate the little things in life that actually bring so much joy every day and turn out to be the big things then. Do more of what makes you happy.

Love,

Phyllis