The Wellness Edition No.77 // Breaking up with...
I was thinking about breakups lately and I came to the conclusion that breakups aren’t just for relationships. I am sure you know the situation of being in a friendship, that does not work out so well anymore, and you come up with the question ‘should I seek a conversation about basically breaking up as friends or should I just wait until we lose contact anyways?’.
Or whenever you are struggling wether to leave a job you are unhappy with, to burn bridges with a family member. I would say all of this falls into the category of ‘breaking up’ - even though we mainly think of breakups regarding relationships in a romantical sense.
Well, I decided to break up with the following things from now on:
toxic people
procrastination
feeling unworthy
not taking good care of myself
dating douche bags / narcissists / religious fundamentalists
taking men back after they clearly screwed it up and don’t deserve a second, third or 50th chance
stress
overdoing social media
being a news junkie, because let’s face it, following the news and politics will just get you depressed
being lazy (I said it before as procrastination but the more reminders the better it is)
not doing things that actually make me happy, this has to change - from now on I break up with bad habits and indulge in all the activities that actually bring me joy and happiness
saying yes to things / situations / people I actually don’t want to say yes to
not setting boundaries
imposter syndrome
stupid excuses why I am not doing what brings me joy
stupid excuses on not building up my own business
thinking I don’t deserve to earn a shitload of money and to become rich as f***
feeling that other people deserve success while I feel that I don’t
feeling that I am only lovable when I am skinny instead of appreciating that I put on a few kilos and feel and look much healthier now
aiming to make others happy while not caring so much about how something makes me feel
that it’s totally fine to have no contact with family members for good reasons without feeling guilty about it
I gotta admit, writing down this ‘break-up list’ felt very therapeutic. I am sure it could get much longer when thinking about more things to break up with, bur for now I am happy with how far I have come with my list. I can totally recommend to write a break-up list, so give it a shot and let me know how you feel afterwards!
Love,
Phyllis
