The Freelance Issue No. 9 // Focus On Yourself
"Where focus goes, energy flows" right? I think it is one of the most important aspects in my life that I have learned so far, to finally put the focus on myself - of course I don't mean that in a selfish way of living your life but you have to figure out what you want from life, what your core values are, what you expect from yourself, which goals you want to reach and then to focus solely on these aspects. Boy, it took me a long time to learn that but now I can finally say I got there, I now put the focus on myself and work for reaching my goals and for doing everything that brings me happiness.
Also I think that it helps incredibly much to focus on yourself whenever you are going through difficult times. As an example, you go through a heartbreaking breakup and pretty much all you do is think about your former significant other. Needless to say that it eats up all your energy and that it is not leading anywhere. So instead it is much better to look at what makes you happy and to dive into that then. You can spend all your time thinking about the coulda, shoulda, woulda and cry your little heart out but instead you can also focus on yourself and for example do something like that; declutter your apartment, learn a new skill or improve already existing skills, read an awesome book or even write an awesome book, learn a new language that you always wanted to learn, plan your next trip to an exotic country, invite your friends over and cook them an amazing dinner, start a blog, learn to dance or to sing and so on. You see, possibilities are endless. I just decided to go for the break-up example because it kind of reflects my current situation and we have all been there experiencing deep pain that we can eventually turn into an creative outlet in the end - if we are open for the experiment.
Another aspect is to stop comparing yourself to other people in your industry, folks you went to school or university with and so on. Only put the focus on yourself and stop comparing yourself to others. Actually the idea of putting the focus on yourself works quite in several aspects in life I just realise, so it is a good thing to consider and to making it a life motto. Of course I don't want to promote selfishness or anything like that, that for sure not, and if you follow along for quite a while you probably know that.
I only want to you to think about what you want from life, to figure out what makes you happy (without harming anyone else of course), which core values are important for you and to incorporate all of these aspects into your own life because you are the creator of your own happiness - no one else can do it for you, only you. Once you realise that, life gets a whole lot better in my humble opinion because you finally realise how powerful you actually are, even if you you were not aware of it before. Realising how much power you actually have to create your own happiness is quite amazing. I know what I am talking about, I used to be the chronically depressed person for the majority of my life but I found my way out of that and most days I am a pretty happy camper now. So if I made it, I am sure you can as well, in case you are also struggling - but the first step is to put your energy and focus back on yourself.