Chase goals, not people

In order to be true and authentic to yourself, you have to learn to make yourself the top priority in your life - which of course does not mean to become a selfish egomaniac, nope it means to put yourself first. To figure out what you truly want from life and then take the right steps accordingly.

I find that very often we are prone to focus on other people in our lives instead of putting the focus on ourselves. Probably here also comes in a fair share of people-pleasing which is not a route to continue because it’s a total detour.

Chase goals, not people therefore - because you will still run your own show / business or whatever you want even after your divorce or after that friendship that ended. You get what I mean here, right? People sometimes change into a direction that is not suitable for us while our goals stay the same, the only thing that changes here is maybe the route we take to make them happen.

Chasing people never works out from my experience, you have no control over how someone feels about you and behaves towards you. So instead better to focus on yourself and the things you can influence, like making your dreams happen and turning them into reality.

Also chasing people (especially in a romantic sense) quickly seems very desperate, the more you chase the faster they run. I can tell from both sides, the more I chased the faster they ran and also the more I got chased, the faster I tried to escape. The chasing game just never works out! It is not natural, is is forced and there is lots of control involved - the master disaster recipe to make things fail. Because there’s no natural flow to go with and to let the Universe work out it’s way by itself.